Message from Millie

Millie is Dan Bessey's mom. Brenan grew up with Dan and spent a lot of time with the Bessey family. She had a few words of comfort for us. Thanks, Millie.

When we were at the church last week I was trying so hard not to cry... As the service started I began to focus on something, anything that might make me realize that Brenan was OK...I had searched my soul and racked my brain and just couldn't get my arms around all the grief and the sorrow.

Suddenly as the service began, I saw a little lizard climbing outside the building and up the wall, pausing every so often, doing push ups and looking in at the crowd and that became my salvation. I kept thinking, "Yep, there's my sign...Brenan, climbing up the wall, all that strength to hang on, watching to see what we were all up to and making sure he told us it was all ok."

When we left the church Missy (Dan's wife) mentioned a similar story saying that watching that little lizard kept her from being too upset because she found his antics kind of amusing and just about that time, didn't it cross right in front of us. I said, 'Well, there he goes again." Silly? Yes! Comforting? Absolutely!

I figure that every time I see one hanging out in the yard now that'll be my commentary from Brenan that he's OK and watching over us all.

Bryan mentioned him being a guardian angel and I believe that to be true. Angels take on many forms for people and so that little lizard will be mine.

I hope your days are getting better as time goes on. Grief isn't easy, it changes over time and at least becomes tolerable.